Disclaimers

As you read through this blog, you will read many stories of communication breakdowns. It will be tempting to take sides. Maybe you will consider me a victim, or an enabler, maybe even a perpetrator at times.

When I am writing these summaries, I am less interested in who did what to whom, than I am in what are the outcomes of a particular event or behavior, and what needs to change going forward as a result.

Since I am the only one who’s behavior I can change, I tend to view situations from the perspective of my culpability and my actions. This is not to absolve others from their actions or responsibility. Believe me many hours have been spent in tears and bewilderment and confusion about why others do as they do. I just find my own life quality improves faster if I focus on my contributions to situations and changes I want to make going forward.

This is not a suggestion that you should do the same, or that this technique will be effective for you.